Using Goals To Boost Self-Esteem
Hopefully, you are all doing the 3 steps to boost your self-esteem in order to flip the narrative along with your daily affirmations to create positive thoughts. At this time, you might still be convincing yourself but the true goal is to actually believe it. One way to do this is through goals. Setting and accomplishing goals not only will give you a sense of pride but it will help you trust yourself again. When we set goals we expect to accomplish them but when we fail it can really affect our self-esteem especially if it continues to happen. This is where we need to be careful about what type of goals we set. Most people tend to set goals that are too big or too broad. If you change the way you set goals you might have more success which helps you avoid that pattern of failure. Of course, we don’t always succeed and failing is sometimes a good thing but if you don’t have any success or somewhat of a pattern of success it will become hard to find your self-worth. When you have a pattern of success you will then begin to trust yourself that when you say you’re going to do something, you really will. Trusting yourself is just another form of believing in yourself.
Let’s talk goal setting!
On my fitness and coaching journey, I’ve learned about many different ways to set and achieve goals. The best formula that I’ve found is called the S.M.A.R.T method. This method makes sure your goals are specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and have a time frame. Let’s break it down so you can start making SMART goals.
Specific (simple, sensible and significant).
When your goals are too broad or too large you might lose the focus and motivation to achieve them. Instead, make your goals smaller by breaking them down and being more specific. In order to know whether you have a specific goal you should ask yourself the following questions:
What exactly do I want to accomplish?
Why is this goal important, what are reasons, purpose or benefits?
Who is involved?
Where is it located?
What requirements, constraints or risks are involved?
Measurable: (meaningful, motivating).
You need to know when you’ve actually achieved your goal. First, any goal that you set should be dependent on you and not anyone or anything else. You must be able to track your progress and have specific criteria to let you know when the goal is achieved. In order to know whether you have a measurable goal you should ask yourself the following questions:
How will I know when my goal is accomplished?
What will I look for to measure progress and success?
What type of data will I use to measure your progress and success? e.g., checklist, diary, recording, scale, etc.
Achievable/Attainable (agreed, attainable).
Every goal should be attainable and realistic. If your goal is something that is impossible financially then you should probably change it. Maybe make a financial goal first then come back to the other goal. In order to know whether you have an achievable goal you should ask yourself the following questions:
Do I have the financial ability to accomplish this goal?
Do I have the personal and physical abilities and skills to accomplish this goal?
Do I have sufficient time to accomplish this goal?
What types of resources do I need to reach my objectives (i.e., technology, space, equipment, etc…)?
Relevant (results-based, meaningful).
Your goal should have value and create meaning for you. It should be a goal that you would enjoy or have a significant impact on your life in a positive way. In order to know whether you have a relevant goal you should ask yourself the following questions:
How will this improve my life?
Is this the right time?
Does this align with other efforts/needs that I have?
Time frame (time-based, time limited, time/cost limited, timely, time-sensitive).
Having a time frame will also help you stay focused and motivated. A deadline can push you to finish and help you focus on the finish line. Think of it as a to-do task and each item needs to be done by a certain date. If you have a goal that is too far away, you might want to consider breaking that goal into smaller goals with different deadlines. In order to know whether you have a time-framed goal you should ask yourself the following questions:
How often can I work on this goal?
When will I start the activities to achieve my goal?
When will I expect to see some short-term outcomes?
When is a realistic time I can achieve this goal?
Setting the right goals encourages personal growth, better self-esteem, and general wellbeing.